Articles
Raising Self-Confident Children
A positive attitude and encouragement will go a long way toward your child's success.
ADVICE | |
If your child is discouraged, highlight the positive things he can do. | |
Point out positive role models in the news and in the books you read with your child. | |
Explain to your child how you have reacted positively in difficult situations. | |
I can't do it.
Take your time and try again. I have confidence in you.
Heather hates me.
Sounds like you're feeling rejected by Heather, and that must hurt. I know you want Heather to like you. Remember that you're a very lovable kid and a terrific person, no matter what Heather, or anyone else, says or does. And, you know, she may have a problem that has nothing to do with you.
It's tough learning something new. Remember when you first tried to ski, how hard it was? But you stuck with it, and now you're really good at skiing.
There is real value in discussing positive thinking andself-esteem with your children on a regular basis. Sadly, these subjects are not yet included in the school curriculum. There are good books that demonstrate positive thinking. Pointing out positive vs. negative attitudes from the news or life stories is an excellent way of showing your children just how this all works in real life, too.
--------------------------------------------------------
Excerpted with permission by New Harbinger Publications, Inc. from Kid Cooperation, How to Stop Yelling, Nagging and Pleading and Get Kids to Cooperate by Elizabeth Pantley, copyright 1996.