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Escape the Self-Deception of Denial

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How do you define yourself?

This is an important question that requires reflection. For example, do you perceive the steps in your life as courageous, or does your ego’s perception of life as survival define your existence? To change this perception requires you to stop, embrace the present and seek the support of others who refuse to encourage your old behaviors. With self-actualization and spiritual courage comes a quieting and shifting of desires.abstract woman

Do you have a childhood “survival story” that you hold onto for dear life? Having claimed your personal courage, now is the time to let go of that story if you want to remove yourself from bad situations. Such stories are ego-created scripts that block your path to growth, but they can be overcome by adopting a personal meditative practice, which helps to uncover motivations obscured by the controlling tendencies of ego.

A meditative discipline introduces us to a deeper level of courage consciousness that reinforces our ability to live more consistently in the “yes mode” of the true Self (rather than the ego’s “yes/no” of survival). We become less reactive, less identified with ego and less externally focused. Eckhart Tolle admonishes us in The Power of NOW, “Say ‘yes’ to life—and see how life suddenly starts to work for you rather than against you.… By watching the mechanics of the mind, you step out of its resistance patterns, and you can then allow the present moment to be.”

Soon, the old ego-scripts, the false self-stories, release their hold. Freed from the past, we no longer replay the old scripts that keep us stuck in denial. As the ego’s mental control scripts begin to fade, however, something unexpected happens. The internal space once dominated by the voice in your head begins to fill with joy, “the emotional expression of the courageous 'Yes' to one’s own true being,” writes philosopher Paul Tillich in The Courage to Be. Are you willing to face it?

Most of us seem to recognize that denial tendencies probably started when we grew up in dysfunctional families. At times, we even recognize how the dysfunctional scripts continue to show up in our lives. We all need to banish these stale scripts (about physical/emotional abuse, alcohol/drug abuse, winning at all costs, job titles, keeping up with the Joneses, hoarding and so on). We all have emotional, spiritual or physical scarring, but what matters is making the choice to use your courage to make a change, to escape the self-deception of denial.

Sandra Ford Walston is known as The Courage Expert and innovator of StuckThinking™. Featured on the speaker circuit as witty, provocative, concrete and insightful, she has sparked positive change in the lives of thousands of leaders each year. She found that there is a direct correlation between your success quotient and your courage quotient.

She is the internationally published author of bestseller COURAGE The Heart and Spirit of Every Woman, the follow-up book The COURAGE Difference at Work: A Unique Success Guide for Women (formerlySTUCK) and FACE IT! 12 Courageous Actions that Bring Success at Work and Beyond. All three books are on based 21 years of original courage research. She is certified in the Enneagram and MBTI® and she is a certified Newfield Network coach. Please visit www.sandrawalston.com.

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Sandra Ford Walston, The Courage Expert and innovator of StuckThinking™, is an international speaker and author, human potential consultant, corporate trainer and certified coach. Sandra’s expertise allows her to focus on the tricks and traps of the human condition through recognizing and interpreting courage behaviors and courageous leadership styles.


 


Featured on the speaker circuit as witty, provocative, concrete and insightful, she has sparked positive change in the lives of thousands of leaders each year. Sandra also provides skills-based programs for some of the most respected public and private blue-chip businesses and organizations in the world, such as IBM, Caterpillar, Inc., Institute of Internal Auditors, Hensel Phelps, Wide Open West, Agrium, Inc., Virginia Commonwealth University, Xanterra Parks & Resorts®, Procter and Gamble, Hitachi Consulting, US Bank, Healthcare Association of New York State, Institute of Management Accountants, and Delta Kappa Gamma International Society.


 


The internationally published author of bestseller COURAGE The Heart and Spirit of Every Woman and an honored author selected for Recording for the Blind and Dyslexic, Sandra facilitates individuals and groups to discover the power and inspiration of their everyday courage.


 


The COURAGE Difference at Work: A Unique Success Guide for Women, Sandra’s follow-up book to COURAGE, is directed at any woman, regardless of title or credentials, who wishes to grow professionally by introducing courage actions at work. Her third book, FACE IT! 12 Courageous Actions that Bring Success at Work and Beyond confirms that what holds you back on the job is the same as what hinders achievement—the reluctance to face and live a courageous life. Sandra is published in magazines such as Chief Learning Officer, Training & Development, HR Matters, Malaysia, and Strategic Finance.


 


Sandra is a certified Newfield Network coach and certified to administer and interpret the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator® along with the Enneagram. She also instructs at the University of Denver.


 


She can be reached at www.sandrawalston.com where she posts a courage blog and courage newsletter.

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