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3 Questions That Can Help You Get What You Want

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Do you find yourself stuck doing the same thing over and over?   Do you getnegative energy stuck on replaying that negative conversation or running through what's wrong in your life,  but nothing changes?

I see this struggle often with my clients. This can happen to anyone - - healthy or not.   But living with bad health is tough enough.   Replaying the tape that leads to nowhere drains precious resources and energy.

Do you get stuck looking at what's wrong with this person or this situation rather than what you want?  You might want to turn the process around.  Start at the end.

Ask yourself:

1. What is the outcome I want here?  What do I want to be different?  (e.g., I want my boss to stop telling me how to do things I already know how to do  OR I want a different job that pays a lot more money.

2.  What do I  believe is actually possible to achieve?  (e.g. I  can get my boss to limit the instructions  OR I need to retrain for different work.)

3. What will it take to achieve this - what do I need to do?  (e.g. I need to speak with my boss about this and tell her I'm able to do what she wants without so much guidance and then set up some systems with her ....   OR  I have to research salaries in my field and the certification requirements and create a timeline . . . . .

The specifics vary but the steps are what matters.  When you take your attention from how external forces should change and put your attention to what you want to be different, that shift in focus creates greater clarity. When you stop the tape you're playing inside your head and ask yourself the right questions, you are building your sense of personal power.

Try it out.  Let me know what you think.

Rosalind Joffe, the Chronic Illness CareerCoach   ¬© llc   2013  All rights reserved

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Rosalind Joffe is passionate about coaching people and giving people the tools they need to thrive in their work while living with chronic illness. Rosalind Joffe built on her experience living with chronic illnesses for over 30 years, including multiple sclerosis and ulcerative colitis, when she founded . This unique career coaching firm is dedicated to helping people with chronic illness who care about their work lives develop the skills they need to succeed. A recognized national expert on chronic illness and its impact on career, Rosalind is a seasoned and certified coach, the co-author of Women, Work and Autoimmune Disease: Keep Working, Girlfriend!, publishes a widely read blog, Working With Chronic Illness and can be found on twitter @WorkWithIllness.
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