Ready. Get SMART. Goal.
|Family Goal Setting:|
|Children and Divorce|
|Raising Self Confident Children|
|Follow Your Bliss|
|Goal Setting Correlates Highly with Success|
The test is simple. Write out each of the goals you'd like to achieve and then ask yourself the following questions:
S: Is your goal specific? Can you visualize the details?
M: Is your goal measurable? You need to be able to measure progress throughout the day, week or month.
A: Is your goal achievable; is it within your capacity to fulfill?
R: Is your goal realistic? Do you have the time and willingness?
T: Does your goal have a time frame? Can you identify a start and end date?
If you don't have a SMART goal, go back to the drawing board and rethink your plans.
Another common problem, says Borba, is when parents try to rescue the child by completing the goal themselves. "Don't rob your child by doing it for him," she warns.
Maybe you've asked family members to sort through their closets and set aside items for a charity pick-up. But as the day looms close, you end up doing it yourself to meet the deadline. This gives children the message that they don't have to set goals, because mom or dad will follow through.
Borba suggests using visual clues and reminders. The next time someone is screaming, give them an exit clue, such as a pull of your ear or a wink of your eye. "Don't expect children to remember a goal they heard once," says Borba. "Post the goal on the refrigerator, draw a picture of it and put it on the bathroom mirror, mention it daily at the breakfast or dinner table and even during tuck-in time."
According to Borba, goal setting is one of the most highly correlated traits of success. Unfortunately, most people don't learn the skill until they're 45. If you give your kids a SMART start, they will make goal setting part of their lifestyle now.
Resolve to put that on your refrigerator.
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