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The Power of Accepting Reality
A key component to moving into a strength focus begins with the first of 4 UNFEAR practices that I share in my book.
Accept what is real.
Unless and until we accept the circumstances of a given situation, we are reacting from fear and through fear based behaviors. Forward movement is limited or impossible without first giving acceptance.
To operate from a place of strength, it is necessary to first accept our talents, our desires, our natural propensities, our weaknesses, our deficiencies, our circumstances, as well as the demands being placed on us. If we dwell on what's not working, we waste energy and time that could be better spent finding solutions or being productive. As long as we are stuck in resistance patterns we are creating pain.
Many people have a hard time accepting their own talents and gifts. It is easier to play a victim role and reap the benefits of being a victim. How often have you given a compliment to someone only to have that compliment rejected? How many times have you been guilty of the same?
In order to move from a place of strength, we have to give up the rewards of being a victim and embrace those aspects and characteristics of ourselves and our jobs in which we excel. Once we have done this it is easier to recognize and address areas where we experience lack and to find ways of mitigating the impact of weaknesses by getting help. Admitting to weakness and asking for assistance is a strength behavior. It opens the door for others to contribute and assist, adding their strengths to the equation. It also allows management teams to find alternate solutions and to work around or to reassign tasks in a timely manner.
By accepting what is real, we are freed to move forward in strength.
Karlin Sloan is the founder and CEO of Karlin Sloan & Company, Ms. Sloan provides organization development consulting, training and executive coaching to clients the U.S., Europe, South America and Asia. She is the author of Smarter, Faster, Better; Strategies for Effective, Enduring, and Fulfilled Leadership (Jossey-Bass, 2006) and Unfear (January 2011).