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Blog posts tagged in chronic illness
In the early years of living with auto immune diseases, I felt completely out of step with people my age. I had more in common with my grandparents and their friends than other 20 and 30 somethings.
At 29 and married one month, I was bedridden and lost vision in one eye (multiple sclerosis). That was our first year of married life. Over the years, my kids' activities and physical work required left me in a puddle.
The following decades, I worried on a daily basis about how symptoms would affect me and left more than one good job because I couldn't keep up.
Being young and unwell too often leaves you feeling hopeless because you haven't had the chance to see what you can do in this life but here's my take on what to do.
Do you find yourself stuck doing the same thing over and over? Do you get stuck on replaying that negative conversation or running through what's wrong in your life, but nothing changes?
If there were a blues song about living with chronic bad health, I bet most people wouldn't sing about 'love gone bad'. No doubt, holding onto relationships is hard with chronically bad health. I've worked with people who blame illness for failed relationships and there's much to be said about that.
But from what I've seen, we cry most frequently about whether to participate or not. "To be or not to be?" wondered Hamlet. He knew that choosing between two bad choices wears a person down.
Living with a chronic health problem can be awfully isolating. Even if you're the most social person, there's no one with whom you can share your daily challenges. You might think it would be easier if you could find someone who also has these challenges. But there's this -- the mutual sharing of health problems can lead to overload. Just ask any 85 year old living in an assisted living what it's like when everyone is in as bad shape as you and that's all anyone talks about!
But until you get to that point in life when the rest of the world seems to have finally...
7 BIG IDEAS for Regaining Power in the Workplace with Chronic Health Problems
1. Focus On What You Can Control. You may not be able to control the course of your illness, but you can take charge of your career direction and the choices you make. View this as a challenge to meet rather than an obstacle in the way.
2. Ignore The Nay Sayers. Common wisdom says that stress is bad and most work is stressful. Therefore, if your body is vulnerable, you should not work. But stress is not always negative. Unpleasant work or working with uncomfortable pressure can be bad...