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If there were a blues song about living with chronic bad health, I bet most people wouldn't sing about 'love gone bad'.   No doubt, holding onto relationships is hard with chronically bad health.  I've worked with people who blame illness for failed relationships and there's much to be said about that.

But from what I've seen, we cry most frequently about whether to participate or not.   "To be or not to be?" wondered Hamlet.   He knew that choosing between two bad choices wears a person down.

What is forgiveness? How do you go about forgiving? What happens when you actually go ahead and forgive? Forgiving requires a courageous choice. The courageous choice is whether you are willing to consent to this healing. In Greek, to forgive means “to let go.” Forgiveness is offered without conditions. Using techniques such as forgiveness meditation/prayers or stopping to apply internal reflection, forgiveness can be centered on someone alive or someone who has passed on. In letting go and forgiving, the process is not about wishing they would change. Forgiveness should not be confused with reconciliation. Reconciliation requires mutual interest with...

Need a New Hip?What are the different types of hip replacements and how should you choose the right one for you? As the baby-boomer generation ages, the amount of total hip replacement surgeries will sky rocket. Degeneration of the hip joint starts to occur as we age and as arthritis sets in, so does PAIN. Groin pain is usually the first sign of an arthritic hip. If a person starts to have groin pain they may not relate it to the hip at first, not until a doctor mentions hip arthritis and it is visualized through an x-ray or MRI. This...

A woman who noticed that a high-ranking position would soon be vacated said, “I thought about it and thought about it. So I did the somewhat brazen thing and went over and asked, “Can I have Vicki’s job?” What’s wrong with asking, and why is it “brazen” to ask? This is a perfect example of "scripts" or inner dialogues that multiply over time and define who we are. Left unchecked, they can prevent us from achieving what we want. When you understand your scripts or inner dialogue, you realize how they have limited an honest and clear vision of who you...

What’s your definition of courage and why is it vital to claim it for yourself? Are you curious about why only 11 percent of more than 750 women I researched for five years perceived themselves as courageous? Interviews with the courageous 11 percent made it clear that these women manifest their courage in specific ways. I call these the 12 feminine behaviors of courage: 1.  Affirming strength and determination, 2.  Confronting abuse, 3.  Conquering fear, 4.  Embracing faith, 5.  Hurdling obstacles/taking risks, 6.  Living convictions, 7.  Manifesting vision, 8.  Overcoming illness or loss, 9.  Reflecting self-esteem, 10. Reinventing self, 11. Revealing...